Friday, September 30, 2011

The heartbreak of Betrayal

     I know I haven't posted in a while.  I have nothing to say.  But a friend recently walked into my life. Reminding me of this.
As in cancer relationships have to be mourned as well.  Many many many times over again.  We all deal with grief in different ways but it always ends up the same.  YOU WILL BE FINE.  This I promise you.  Time heals all wounds.  The threat of a horrible possibly fatal disease, loss of a spouse, family member or the like.
     No matter how you feel about it you must go through the grief stages.  in not neccisarily this order. Anger, Deppression, Bargaining, Denial and finally ACCEPTANCE.  the last one you will feel and think you are done just as soon as something comes along and hits you like a tsunami.  You get knocked right back to the beginning again.  I believe this is normal.  I have had ALOT of loss in my life.  Too much for my 30 years.  But the great creator or whoever holds the strings on us will never give you more than you can handle and never ever lets you be totally alone to deal with the trauma.
    Without my sisters, husband, parents and extended family I would not have lived this long.  The emotional support they provide is invaluable.  When true friends and family are suffering they will never let you go,  just DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!  Again I am going to quote CV  "YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!  EVEN WHEN YOU THINK YOU CAN'T, YOU CAN"

  Just look around you and accept the help.  everyone needs a little (or alot) of help sometimes.  Be it physical like helping someone get dressed or emotional like helping someone get through a deep betrayal.