Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Only good reviews... BEWARE

Ever wonder how and why those "great" companies get 0 negative reviews? Well here is the answer from experience.
     We took our dogs to All Dogs Unleashed to be trained while we went on the cruise.  However when we got back our dogs were trained alright, so trained they were petrified of the collars and therefore us.  We didn't like the fact that they said to repeatedly "stimulate them"  when they don't listen.  That means SHOCK them repeatedly and thus the reason why they were afraid of the collars.
So as a consumer I thought people should be warned about this place, so I gave them a blisteringly honest review.  I said they are sadistic and cruel and they are LIARS.  They sugarcoated the whole shock thing I actually asked, "Is this a shock collar?"  They replied, "No, it is a muscle stimulator do you want to feel what it does?"  So I put it around my neck and they "stimulated" on level 5.
     When we got back they had jacked it up to level 20 and when they shocked Sasha and Indy the dogs jumped and Sasha yelped.  I was PISSED.  The vibration works just as well.  In addition they put the collars on so tight it chokes our dogs.  The collars are EXTREMELY uncomfortable because they have 2 prongs that go around them and bore into their neck.  I tried to get Sashas more comfortable and tried to twist it to a more comfortable place on her neck.  She Yelped and jerked away.
   After I posted the review I got a call from the OWNER Scott  www.alldogsunleashed.com
and guilted me into taking it down I felt threatened so I took it down.  I thought all reviews were anonymous. So I was just trying to warn others.  So take care where you send you puppies.
http://alldogsunleashed.com/

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Back into the jobforce

So I have been thinking about going back to work.  I want part-time and would rather the employers not know I have cancer.  However If anyone that I apply to is the least bit internet savvy they are going to find out and there is nothing I can do about that.
     If they don't want to hire me due to the fact that I have survived brain cancer then it is their loss.  Cancer has taught me how to and NOT to interact with people. Especially elders and it taught me how to be even more compassionate.  I wouldn't change a thing. I've had people tell me me different things about telling the employers that I had cancer.  My sister said disclose it and though it may cost me that particular job, I will know when I do get a job they will be flexible due to my "condition".  Pam said don't disclose it because they are going to want to know that I will stay with them and not waste their time and money.  In other words I will be a "good investment".
What do you think?  Would you disclose that you SURVIVED brain cancer and are tenacious enough and tough enough to withstand almost anything life throws at you?  Also I HAD to turn down a promotion from D.A.D.S. and that just makes me sick.  Now I am looking for something in community and social services all the way down to clerical and filing.
Your thoughts? 

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Dancing tumors


My readers  know 2 things as an absolute truth about me.  1 I have cancer  2 I LOVE dancing.  That is why I miss Danceaton so much. 
     I went out last night with friends and to my delight we went to The Den, a dance club and lounge.  It was empty when we arrived so not caring what ANYONE thought, I let loose with my pent up dancing frustration.  The bartenders were laughing their butts off at me, but I didn't care.  I was having fun and they were getting free entertainment.  Anyone that has ever been to a club knows that the people come in and the dance floor is a ghost town until the drunks get there.  Well not last night.  One of my many theories is if I have fun that is great, but if I can have fun AND  provide entertainment for people; even better.  I am NEVER going to see any of them ever again and the ones that I will see again are my friends.  Any my point is Other peoples opinion of you doesn't change who you are or the situation that you are in.  If they want to judge, let them.  Be proud that they were paying attention.  Maybe they'll learn something.  There is no point in being embarrassed it is a useless emotion what is done is done. This little 20 something girl came up to me and challenged me to a dance off.  Of course I obliged.  Basically I dance at her.  She got embarrassed and took off.  It was entertaining to me.  Then these 2 guys came up and tried to dance with me.  I didn't want to be hindered so I danced away. 
   Anyway when we left I was DRENCHED in sweat and felt great.  DAMN I wish 24 would bring a cool dance class back.  I only go to swim now bc Turbo Kick and Body Pump are on such a regiment that the instructors have to play certain songs with certain sets and they don't have the rights to play the real songs such as Guns N Roses Sweet child of mine, This guy was howling and it didn't sound ANYTHING like Axl.  I don't blame the teachers at all.
     Every day people live their lives and some of them have such low self esteem.  Up until Snarla parked herself in my brain and challenged me for the right to live I had VERY LOW self esteem.  When I won the fight I the phrase, "you can only control how you act and react" suddenly made a whole heck of alot of sense.  When you get angry think of why you are getting angry, it is usually because you can't control the situation.  It is the same for most negative emotions.  I find the most powerful word is WHATEVER.  Whatever they want to do is what they are gonna do and how is feeling bad going to benefit  you?  Just let go and let God,  basically just float.  If the situation is bad you can just leave.  I learned that from an ex I had nowhere to go so I asked for help and got it.  That is what led me to Texas.  I credit him with forcing me to stand up for myself.
      We only have one life.  So get out there and LIVE like you're dying because no day is gauranteed.
Until next time...

Monday, January 7, 2013

Problems and seizures

So last night I randomly started slurring and losing my balance and I knew it was bad bc Mike freaked out and he NEVER freaks out.  So he called Fink and she thinks it may have been a minor seizure.  Therefore just to be safe I won't drive for the next couple days.
   I really need to go get my car detailed cause my dog Sasha vomited in it after we she ate a ball.  We took her the animal E.R. they did xrays and then induced vomiting.  They though she was done and let us take her.  Low and behold she held out on one last spew to do it in MY CAR.  So Mike told me to get it detailed yesterday and I was like, "Oh, I'll do it on Tuesday when I have to be out of the house and the dogs are at the Boarding Bungalow."  I was also planning on going to see my nephew Truitt on his birthday Tuesday.  Today I was going to get him a gift Power Ranger black box gear or something like that.

 DAMN STUPID SEIZURES.  Interrupting my life. But the person I feel the most for is my husband bc he is going to have to pick up the slack.  In addition to going to work he will have to go out of his way to take the pups on Tuesday unless I can finagle the boarding place to pick them up and drop them off.  Also the grocery shopping , dry cleaning and all the other stuff that I usually take off his plate.

Driving takes away your freedom.  You never realize how much you value your car until you aren't allowed to drive.  I cannot go to the gym.  I don't want to bother anyone bc my friends have given me enough rides.  They will hopefully move my MRI up and I hope it was just a fluke seizure because if it wasn't that means I am going to have to start fighting again.  Fighting makes me SOOOO tired.  Mike and I have decided No more surgery ever I don't want to do radiation I just want chemo if that what it takes.  But here I am putting the cart miles in front of the horse and the horse is having a hell of a time catching up.  Most likely it is nothing but better be safe than dead.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

cancer diet help

http://www.helpguide.org/life/healthy_diet_cancer_prevention.htm

Topics

Free Emotional Intelligence Course
Helpguide / Harvard Collaboration

The Anti-Cancer Diet

CANCER NUTRITION TIPS AND CANCER-FIGHTING FOODS

Eating Well Help Center
Cancer Diet
Whether you have a history of cancer in your family, or are currently battling the disease, lifestyle factors, including your diet, can make a huge difference in helping you fight off cancer. Some foods actually increase your risk of cancer, while others support your body and strengthen your immune system. By making smart food choices, you can protect your health, feel better, and boost your ability fight off cancer and other disease

What you need to know about cancer and diet

Not all health problems are avoidable, but you have more control over your health than you may think. Research shows that a large percentage of cancer-related deaths—maybe even the majority—are directly linked to lifestyle choices such as smoking, drinking, a lack of exercise, and an unhealthy diet. Avoiding cigarettes, limiting alcohol, and getting regular exercise are a great start to an anti-cancer lifestyle. But to best support your health, you also need to look at your eating habits.
What you eat—and don’t eat—has a powerful effect on your health, including your risk of cancer. Without knowing it, you may be eating many foods that fuel cancer, while neglecting the powerful foods and nutrients that can protect you. If you change your diet and behaviors, you can minimize your risk of disease and possibly even stop cancer in its tracks.

Cancer prevention diet tip #1: Focus on plant-based foods

Why plant-based foods are cancer-fighting powerhouses

It comes down to this: Plants have less fat, more fiber, and more cancer-fighting nutrients. These three elements work together to support your immune system and help your body fight off cancer.  
The best diet for preventing or fighting cancer is a predominantly plant-based diet that includes a variety of vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. A plant-based diet means eating mostly foods that come from plants: vegetables, fruits, nuts, grains, and beans. 
The less processed these foods are—the less they’ve been cooked, peeled, mixed with other ingredients, stripped of their nutrients, or otherwise altered from the way they came out of the ground—the better.
There are many ways to add plant-based foods to your diet. A nice visual reminder is to aim for a plate of food that is filled at least two-thirds with whole grains, vegetables, beans, or fruit. Dairy products, fish, and meat should take up no more than a third of the plate. Keep in mind that you don’t need to go completely vegetarian. Instead, focus on adding “whole” foods, which are foods close to their original form. Just as important, try to minimize or reduce the amount of processed foods you eat. Eat an apple instead of drinking a glass of apple juice, for example. Or enjoy a bowl of oatmeal with raisins instead of an oatmeal raisin cookie.

Simple tips for getting more plant-based foods in your diet

  • Breakfast: Add fruit and a few seeds or nuts to your whole grain breakfast cereal (such as oatmeal).
  • Lunch: Eat a big salad filled with your favorite beans and peas or other combo of veggies. Always order lettuce and tomato (plus any other veggies you can) on your sandwiches. Order whole grain bread for your sandwiches. Have a side of veggies like cut up carrots, sauerkraut, or a piece of fruit.
  • Snacks: Fresh fruit and vegetables. Grab an apple or banana on your way out the door. Raw veggies such as carrots, celery, cucumbers, jicama, peppers, etc. are great with a low-fat dip such as hummus. Keep trail mix made with nuts, seeds, and a little dried fruit on hand.
  • Dinner: Add fresh or frozen veggies to your favorite pasta sauce or rice dish. Top a baked potato with broccoli and yogurt, sautéed veggies, or with salsa. Replace creamy pasta sauces, with sautéed vegetables or tomato sauce made with healthy olive oil.
  • Dessert: Choose fruit instead of a richer dessert. Or a single square of dark chocolate.

Buy organic or local produce, if possible

Some pesticides found in commercially-grown produce are also suspected carcinogens. Organic foodsare free of these pesticides, and locally grown produce is less likely to have been treated with chemicals to prevent spoilage.

Cancer prevention diet tip #2: Bulk up on fiber

Cancer prevention diet tip #2 – Bulk up on fiberAnother benefit of eating plant-based foods is that it will also increase your fiber intake. Fiber, also called roughage or bulk, is the part of plants (grains, fruits, and vegetables) that your body can’t digest. Fiber plays a key role in keeping your digestive system clean and healthy. It helps keep food moving through your digestive tract, and it also moves cancer-causing compounds out before they can create harm.
Fiber is found in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. In general, the more natural and unprocessed the food, the higher it is in fiber. There is no fiber in meat, dairy, sugar, or “white” foods like white bread, white rice, and pastries.

Simple ways to add more fiber to your diet:

  • Use brown rice instead of white rice
  • Substitute whole-grain bread for white bread
  • Choose a bran muffin over a croissant or pastry
  • Snack on popcorn instead of potato chips
  • Eat fresh fruit such as a pear, a banana, or an apple (with the skin)
  • Have a baked potato, including the skin, instead of mashed potatoes
  • Enjoy fresh carrots, celery, or bell peppers with a hummus or salsa, instead of chips and a sour cream dip
  • Use beans instead of ground meat in chili, casseroles, tacos, and even burgers (bean burgers can taste great)
High-fiber, cancer-fighting foods
Whole grains
whole-wheat pasta, raisin bran, barley, oatmeal, oat bran muffins, popcorn, brown rice, whole-grain or whole-wheat bread
Fruit
raspberries, apples, pears, strawberries, bananas, blackberries, blueberries, mango, apricots, citrus fruits, dried fruit, prunes, raisins
Legumes
lentils, black beans, split peas, lima beans, baked beans, kidney beans, pinto, chick peas, navy beans, black-eyed peas
Vegetables
broccoli, spinach, dark green leafy vegetables, peas, artichokes, corn, carrots, tomatoes, Brussels sprouts, potatoes

Cancer prevention diet tip #3: Cut down on meat

Research shows that vegetarians are about fifty percent less likely to develop cancer than those who eat meat. So what’s the link between meat and cancer risk? First, meat lacks fiber and other nutrients that have been shown to have cancer-protective properties. What it does have in abundance, however, is fat—often very high levels of saturated fat. High-fat diets have been linked to higher rates of cancer. And saturated fat is particularly dangerous. Finally, depending on how it is prepared, meat can develop carcinogenic compounds.

Making better meat and protein choices

You don’t need to cut out meat completely and become a vegetarian. But most people consume far more meat than is healthy. You can cut down your cancer risk substantially by reducing the amount of animal-based products you eat and by choosing healthier meats.
  • Keep meat to a minimum. Try to keep the total amount of meat in your diet to no more than fifteen percent of your total calories. Ten percent is even better.
  • Eat red meat only occasionally. Red meat is high in saturated fat, so eat it sparingly.
  • Reduce the portion size of meat in each meal. The portion should be able to fit in the palm of your hand.
  • Use meat as a flavoring or a side, not the entrée. You can use a little bit of meat to add flavor or texture to your food, rather than using it as the main element.
  • Add beans and other plant-based protein sources to your meals.
  • Choose leaner meats, such as fish, chicken, or turkey. If possible, buy organic.
  • Avoid processed meats such as hotdogs, sausage, deli meats, and salami.

Cancer prevention diet tip #4: Choose your fats wisely

A major benefit of cutting down on the amount of meat you eat is that you will automatically cut out a lot of unhealthy fat. Eating a diet high in fat increases your risk for many types of cancer. But cutting out fat entirely isn’t the answer, either. In fact, some types of fat may actually protect against cancer. The trick is to choose your fats wisely and eat them in moderation.
  • Fats that increase cancer risk – The two most damaging fats are saturated fats and trans fats. Saturated fats are found mainly in animal products such as red meat, whole milk dairy products, and eggs. Trans fats, also called partially hydrogenated oils, are created by adding hydrogen to liquid vegetable oils to make them more solid and less likely to spoil—which is very good for food manufacturers, and very bad for you.
  • Fats that decrease cancer risk – The best fats are unsaturated fats, which come from plant sources and are liquid at room temperature. Primary sources include olive oil, canola oil, nuts, and avocados. Also focus on omega-3 fatty acids, which fight inflammation and support brain and heart health. Good sources include salmon, tuna, and flaxseeds.

Tips for choosing cancer-fighting fats and avoiding the bad

  • Reduce your consumption of red meat, whole milk, butter, and eggs, as these are the primary source of saturated fats.
  • Cook with olive oil instead of regular vegetable oil. Canola oil is another good choice, especially for baking.
  • Check the ingredient list on food labels and avoid anything with hydrogenated or partially hydrogenated oils, which are usually found in stick margarines, shortenings, salad dressings, and other packaged foods.
  • Trim the fat off of meat when you do eat it, and avoid eating the skin of the chicken.
  • Choose nonfat dairy products and eggs that have been fortified with omega-3 fatty acids.
  • Add nuts and seeds to cereal, salads, soups, or other dishes. Good choices include walnuts, almonds, pumpkin seeds, hazelnuts, pecans, and sesame seeds.
  • Use flaxseed oil in smoothies, salad dressings, or mixed in snacks such as applesauce. But do not cook with flaxseed oil, as it loses its protective properties when heated.
  • Limit fast food, fried foods, and packaged foods, which tend to be high in trans fats. This includes foods like potato chips, cookies, crackers, French fries, and doughnuts.
  • Eat fish once or twice a week. Good choices include wild salmon, sardines, herring, and black cod. But be conscious of mercury, a contaminant found in many types of fish. 

Cancer prevention diet tip #5: Choose cancer-fighting foods

Your immune system keeps you healthy by fighting off unwanted invaders in your system, including cancer cells. There are many things you can eat to maximize the strength of your immune system, as well as many cancer-fighting foods. But keep in mind that there is no single miracle food or ingredient that will protect you against cancer. Eating a colorful variety gives you the best protection.
  • Boost your antioxidants. Antioxidants are powerful vitamins that protect against cancer and help the cells in your body function optimally. Fruits and vegetables are the best sources of antioxidants such as beta-carotene, vitamin C, vitamin E, and selenium.
  • Eat a wide range of brightly colored fruits and vegetables. Colorful fruits and vegetables are rich in phytochemicals, a potent disease–fighting and immune–boosting nutrient. The greater the variety of colors that you include, the more you will benefit, since different colors are rich in different phytochemicals.
  • Flavor with immune-boosting spices and foods. Garlic, ginger, and curry powder not only add flavor, but they add a cancer-fighting punch of valuable nutrients. Other good choices include turmeric, basil, rosemary, and coriander. Use them in soups, salads, casseroles, or any other dish.
  • Drink plenty of water. Water is essentially to all bodily processes. It stimulates the immune system, removes waste and toxins, and transports nutrients to all of your organs. 

Cancer prevention diet tip #6: Prepare your food in healthy ways

Choosing healthy food is not the only important factor. It also matters how you prepare and store your food. The way you cook your food can either help or hurt your anti-cancer efforts.

Preserving the cancer-fighting benefits of vegetables

Preserving the cancer-fighting benefits of vegetablesHere are a few tips that will help you get the most benefits from eating all those great cancer-fighting vegetables:
  • Eat at least some raw fruits and vegetables. These have the highest amounts of vitamins and minerals, although cooking some vegetables can make the vitamins more available for our body to use.
  • When cooking vegetables, steam until just tender using a small amount of water. This preserves more of the vitamins. Overcooking vegetables removes many of the vitamins and minerals. If you do boil vegetables, use the cooking water in a soup or another dish to ensure you’re getting all the vitamins.
  • Wash all fruits and vegetables. Use a vegetable brush for washing. Washing does not eliminate all pesticide residue, but will reduce it. Choose organic produce if possible, grown without the use of pesticides.

Cooking and carcinogens

Carcinogens are cancer-causing substances found in food. Carcinogens can form during the cooking or preserving process—mostly in relation to meat—and as foods start to spoil. Examples of foods that have carcinogens are cured, dried, and preserved meats (e.g. bacon, sausage, beef jerky); burned or charred meats; smoked foods; and foods that have become moldy. Here are some ways reduce your exposure to carcinogens:

The 5 Worst Foods to Grill

  • Chicken breast, skinless, boneless, grilled, well done
  • Steak, grilled, well done
  • Pork, barbecued
  • Salmon, grilled with skin
  • Hamburger, grilled, well done
Source: Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine
  • Do not cook oils on high heat. Low-heat cooking or baking (less than 240 degrees) prevents oils or fats from turning carcinogenic. Instead of deep-frying, pan-frying, and sautéing, opt for healthier methods such as baking, boiling, steaming, or broiling.
  • Go easy on the barbecue. Burning or charring meats creates carcinogenic substances. If you do choose to barbecue, don’t overcook the meat and be sure to cook at the proper temperature (not too hot).
  • Store oils in a cool dark place in airtight containers, as they quickly become rancid when exposed to heat, light, and air.
  • Choose fresh meats instead of cured, dried, preserved, or smoked meats.
  • Avoid foods that look or smell moldy, as they likely contain aflatoxin, a strong carcinogen. Aflatoxin is most commonly found on moldy peanuts. Nuts will stay fresh longer if kept in the refrigerator or freezer.
  • Be careful what you put in the microwave. Use waxed paper rather than plastic wrap to cover your food in the microwave. And always use microwave-safe containers.

Newtown Tragedy

It is an unspeakably evil, mentally disturbed person that could kill children without mercy.  In light of that I found an article of things not to say when dealing with the death of kids.



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Rev. Emily C. Heath

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Dealing With Grief: Five Things NOT To Say And Five Things To Say In A Trauma Involving Children

Posted: 12/14/2012 5:58 pm

We often have no idea what to say in the face of senseless loss. That is especially true when children are the victims of tragedy. Today's shooting in Connecticut is heartbreaking in so many ways, not the least of which is the staggering loss of children.
My first two years in ministry were spent as a chaplain assigned to the emergency department of a children's hospital with a level one trauma center. During that ministry I saw so many senseless tragedies. I also heard some of the worst theology of my life coming from people who thought they were bringing comfort to the parents. More often than not, they weren't. And often, they made the situation worse.
Here are five things not to say to grieving family and friends:
1. "God just needed another angel."
Portraying God as someone who arbitrarily kills kids to fill celestial openings is neither faithful to God, nor helpful to grieving parents.
2. "Thank goodness you have other children," or, "You're young. You can have more kids."
Children are not interchangeable or replaceable. The loss of a child will always be a loss, no matter how many other children a parent has or will have.
3. He/she was just on loan to you from God.
The message is that God is so capricious that God will break parents' hearts at will just because God can. It also communicates to parents and loved ones that they are not really entitled to their grief.
4. God doesn't give you more than you can handle.
Actually, some people do get a lot more than any one person should ever have to handle. And it doesn't come from God. Don't trivialize someone's grief with a "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" mentality.
5. We may not understand it, but this was God's will.
Unless you are God, don't use this line.
And here are five things to say:
1. I don't believe God wanted this or willed it.
A grieving friend or family member is likely hearing that this is God's will from a number of other people. Affirm the idea that it may very well not be.
2. It's okay to be angry, and I'm a safe person for you express that anger to if you need it.
Anger is an essential part of the grieving process, but many don't know where to talk about it because they are often silenced by others when they express their feelings. (For instance, they may be told they have no right to be angry at God.) By saying you are a safe person to share all feelings, including anger, with, you help the grieving person know where they can turn.
3. It's not okay.
It seems so obvious, but sometimes this doesn't get said. Sometimes the pieces don't fit. Sometimes nothing works out right. And sometimes there is no way to fix it. Naming it can be helpful for some because it lets them know you won't sugarcoat their grief.
4. I don't know why this happened.
When trauma happens, the shock and emotion comes first. But not long after comes our human need to try to explain "why?" The reality is that often we cannot. The grieving person will likely have heard a lot of theories about why a trauma occurred. Sometimes it's best not to add to the chorus, but to just acknowledge what you do not know.
5. I can't imagine what you are going through, but I am here to support you in whatever way feels best.
Even if you have faced a similar loss, remember that each loss is different. Saying "I know how you're feeling" is often untrue. Instead, ask how the grieving person is feeling. And then ask what you can do to help. Then, do it and respect the boundaries around what they don't want help with at this point. You will be putting some control back into the hands of the grieving person, who often feels like they have lost so much of it.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rev-emily-c-heath/dealing-with-grief-five-t_b_2303910.html